Unbelievable Beauty

Do you believe in Santa Claus?

Do you believe in the Easter Bunny?

Do you believe in the  Tooth Fairy?

How about Leprechauns? Unicorns?

Do you believe in Fairy Tales?

OK then, just WHAT DO you believe in?

Do you remember what you wanted to be when you “grew up”?  You told your parents, your teacher, your friends all of your dreams and aspirations.

I remember in second grade, our teacher pointed desk to desk one day and asked each kid what they wanted to be.  My life long friend and neighbor stated that he wanted to be a truck driver.  I’m not sure if he said that for a laugh or because he believed it, but it was incongruous with the rest of his abilities.  (he’s a big-time attorney now).  I honestly cannot remember what my answer was.  I may have said race car driver.

It’s kind of interesting to think back and remember all the things you thought and believed.  What do you think of the names and objects listed above today?  Did you you  believe in them once?  If so why?  We are the same people now we were then.  “Just older”, you snigger?

Where did all this common information come from?  When we were little, there was no internet.  When my parents were little, there was no TV. When my grandparents were little, even dirt was clean.  But the same beliefs have been passed down, generation to generation.

But look what happens!  Every generation gets older (or “grows-up” – don’t get me started THERE!) Yet the beliefs as kids are formed and then somehow debunked!  What’s going on here??

Are ALL of our parents PATENT LIARS?  Jeez!  First they tell us something, like we are supposed to believe it (like, this is our house) then only later to find out it’s not! (well, really, the bank owns it, we just live here).  Or they tell us Santa brings the toys (and forces us to believe he comes in through a chimney, which you know in your GUT is too small for that fat guy and huge sack, but no, your parents insist, Santa brought all this loot that’s under the tree.

C’Mon MOM!  Why did you lie to us?  How the heck can we expect to believe ANYTHING we’ve been told our whole lives, when we get such a huge sack of lies laid on us from our infancy?

“Stories”.  A one word explanation for why we were fed all this nonsense.  Alright? Did George Washington chop down a cherry tree? Did Abe Lincoln really walk to Las Vegas to return a guys nickel?  What are we supposed to BELIEVE?  We kind of dance in and out of that “BELIEF” stuff all the time, right?  So just what do you believe?  What you are told, what you see, what you feel?  (Watching a movie, do you really believe the actor or actress on the screen is bing tortured in front of the camera, or is it simply acting?)

OK, do you believe you are pretty (or handsome)?  Do you?   (be honest)!

Who says you are either of the aforementioned?  The general public?  The Fairy GodMother? Someone you don’t know?

How about that voice in your head?  You know, the one you can’t seem to shut off.  The one that keeps blabbing about every fault and failure and stupid thing you’ve ever said or done. It’s like a radio station tuned to a frequency you should not be on.  Yet, there it is!

One of the SINGLE BIGGEST EXCUSES I HEAR for people NOT wanting to have their “picture taken”, is the gutteral belief that they are not good looking, attractive, handsome, pretty, thin, blonde, tan,…..(whatever) ENOUGH.  HUH!?!?  Hey!

You are YOU!

If you don’t think you are (fill in the blank, enough) , if you don’t BELIEVE you are (fill in the blank), who told you so?  Is this some fairy tale or childhood creation?  Did you have some brain-scaring event happen to you decades ago and you still BELIEVE it to this day?  Are you going to carry some silly, adolescent, momentary comment about something, to your grave?  Do YOU  believe in the Tooth Fairy?  Do you STILL  believe in some silly thought you heard a long time ago?

Here’s the deal:  If you DON’T BELIEVE YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL, YOU ARE RIGHT.  (guys, I’m talking to you too)  None of us can or could have accomplished anything in our lives, if we didn’t first believe it.

Did you ever go out and do something, just to prove someone else was wrong?  Why are we challenged like that?

If you’ve ever raised an infant, didn’t you hold that baby and whisper for hours to it, how beautiful it was?  Can you remember as a parent or a child, either getting or combing hair and being told how handsome or beautiful you were?  IT’S BECAUSE YOU WERE/ARE!

What changed?  What happened to make you BELIEVE you were not beautiful?  (Be honest)

One of the best quotes I’ve carried my whole life (and I cannot remember where or when I heard it) is this: “We are all in the process of becoming what we imagine ourselves to be”.

If you could not have believed you could have learned to ride a bike, you still could not.  You told yourself you couldn’t.  You are right every time.  If you tell yourself you are (insert the negative description here), again you are right!  We are all in the process of becoming what we imagine ourselves to be!  And again, just who told you that (insert your negative comment here) was so bad?  YOU DID!  No one else did.  Don’t point fingers here……(“sticks and stones………”)

Here’s the part we all fall into, the “genetics” trap. (excuse)

Take me, for example.  Genetics says I’m bald.  My mother’s father was bald, that’s where the dominant gene comes from and sure enough, every single male of my generation, (brother and cousins) all have the identical hairline.  (When my niece was young, she looked at me and my head one day and said, “Uncle John, you don’t have a forehead….you have a nineteen-head!”)  Smart kid!  I hated being bald. So do a lot of other guys.  A billion dollar industry is built around guys not wanting to be bald.  Why? Self-Image.  Bald guys want to “look younger”.  (Then why to young guys with hair shave it off?)  There is a huge set of the population that finds baldness as sexy!  I have had women, total strangers, come up to me and rub their palm on my head, roll their eyes and just purr.  HUH?  Genetics….don’t fall for that one in the back of your mind!

“Beauty comes from within”.  We’ve heard it all of our lives.  BELIEVE IT!

Do NOT attempt to compare yourself with a published version of “beauty”.  (read an earlier post of mine to understand the fabrication of images) Do NOT believe in Paper Dolls!  They are most certainly not real, breathing humans.  They are as real as a photographic “cartoon”.

Your image and your reputation…..you have total control.  You don’t believe it?  OK, so what is it?  Do you ‘believe it when you see it’ OR, you ‘see it when you believe it’?

Beauty does not come from your hang-ups of your physical traits. That’s as negative as it gets.  Beauty comes from knowing and believing you are beautiful (or handsome).

Then, we are in the process of becoming what we believe.

You believe you know how to drive your car.  One very complex machine, along with other drivers, sharing the same belief.  If you didn’t……………..!

You believe you can read.  If you didn’t……………………!

Right now, BELIEVE and continue to constantly BELIEVE, in Beautiful YOU.

 

©2011 JohnRobertWilliams

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